Meeting new people used to be a lot of fun for me. I’d love to hear their stories and learn who
they were. Since losing Isaac meeting
new people is completely different, and slightly scary. I
met some new people Friday night, and I’ve been processing it ever since.
When having small talk, trying to get to know the other
woman she asked me about children and how many I had. Put on the spot I wasn’t even
sure how to answer it. Do I say two? Or just one and deny that he existed? So, I took the
less invasive, less sympathetic eyes, and said I have an almost four year
old. She then said “oh, that’s it – do you
guys want more?” But, somehow, I held myself together and just said “maybe
someday” and that was it. Then, meeting
another woman that night – same thing. “Oh,
do you guys want more?”
I don’t fault them for their questions, as they have no idea
the things I’ve gone through in the last seven months. But, when did it become okay to ask total
strangers about such personal things like that?
In the end, I guess I just hope that people realize that
those questions are very hard for some to answer. It’s not always black and white. So, please if you’re in this situation meeting
someone new – please don’t ask those questions unless they bring it up. You never know what they’re fighting.
