Monday, April 4, 2016

Meeting New People

Meeting new people used to be a lot of fun for me.  I’d love to hear their stories and learn who they were.  Since losing Isaac meeting new people is completely different, and slightly scary.  I met some new people Friday night, and I’ve been processing it ever since. 

When having small talk, trying to get to know the other woman she asked me about children and how many I had.  Put on the spot I wasn’t even sure how to answer it.  Do I say two?  Or just one and deny that he existed?  So, I took the less invasive, less sympathetic eyes, and said I have an almost four year old.  She then said “oh, that’s it – do you guys want more?” But, somehow, I held myself together and just said “maybe someday” and that was it.  Then, meeting another woman that night – same thing.  “Oh, do you guys want more?” 

I don’t fault them for their questions, as they have no idea the things I’ve gone through in the last seven months.  But, when did it become okay to ask total strangers about such personal things like that? 


In the end, I guess I just hope that people realize that those questions are very hard for some to answer.  It’s not always black and white.  So, please if you’re in this situation meeting someone new – please don’t ask those questions unless they bring it up.  You never know what they’re fighting.  

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